I have collates two subjects together that are revolving around the same social construct. These views were stated by two other young autistic girls on TikTok. However, I have noticed time and time again that these experiences happen to autistic people who have shared their stories online etc. The first is that neurotypical people seem to hate autistic people naturally. That is definitely a thing. I wouldn’t mind but we aren’t even given a chance. They don’t even try to get to know us before discarding us and yelling everyone we’re a bad person. Neurotypical’s are group oriented thinkers. They will just agree with the opinion that someone else has of a person then effectively ‘write that person off’ or label them ‘undesirable’. Their logic is rather basic in regard to being unable to have an opinion that differs from those around them. They are the one boxed into a certain narrative, not us. This leads on to the next point. These two aspects fit together as a whole picture.
The neurotypical world doesn’t welcome the opinions, views and expertise of neurodiverse people. The fact that our brains aren’t able to work or process things in the way that is seen as ‘the norm’ means that whatever we say is practically invisible. Or, if someone was offended by what we say, despite whether it is a truthful observation, we get punished, bullied or suffer isolation due to it. It makes us not want to share our opinions or talk about what we know because it conditions us to not say anything or people aren’t going to like us. People are always going on about boundaries. Yes our boundaries are too relaxed at times. When people ignore us, blank us in the street and obviously avoid us, that isn’t showing any respect whatsoever. Neurotypical’s just can’t see that. They simply have no idea what psychological damage that causes to a neurodiverse person. The way it affects their self esteem, causes insomnia alongside a lot of anxiety about whether you’re worthy as a person because you’re so easy to reject etc.
I apologised recently for things I said which offended someone I think is neurotypical. Their behaviour was shitty toward me and they literally look like they’ve turned around telling others locally that it was my fault. They were the ones that started it. They were constantly cold toward me and ignored me… even blanking me in the street and telling me it was for professional boundaries. There wasn’t any need to give me a look of disgust, that is one look that really hurts me. It costs nothing to be decent or at least a bit nice to someone. I’m very honest when I’m not on antidepressants. They did that to me before I was even horrible to them. They pushed it too far. I bit back… that is what I apologised for. I don’t take back what I said because their behaviour was absolutely shitty toward me when I was being nice to them. It is a privilege for others to know parts of our lives. They abused that privilege. Then they go out there telling others that I’m the problem. I played my part but I reacted to their crap. This situation I’m in relates to the natural hate neurotypical’ have for autistic people and the fact that society doesn’t allow us to state our opinions without punishment.
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While Hollywood efforts and TV shows like ‘The Good Doctor’ do help the autism-spectrum-disorder cause, I say: Maybe schoolteachers could/should receive mandatory training on children with ASD, especially as the rate of diagnoses greatly increases.
There could also be an inclusion in standard high school curriculum of child-development science that would also teach students about the often-debilitating condition (without being overly complicated).
If nothing else, the curriculum would offer students an idea/clue as to whether they themselves are emotionally/mentally compatible with the immense responsibility and strains of regular, non-ASD-child parenthood.
It would explain to students how, among other aspects of the condition, people with ASD (including those with higher functioning autism) are often deemed willfully ‘difficult’ and socially incongruent, when in fact such behavior is really not a choice. And how “camouflaging” or “masking,” terms used to describe ASD people pretending to naturally fit into a socially ‘normal’ environment, causes their already high anxiety and depression levels to further increase.
Of course, this exacerbation is reflected in the disproportionately high rate of suicide among ASD people.
Until I was a half-century old, I didn’t know about my own crippling ASD condition. It’s still an unofficial [self-]diagnosis due to $$$ charged within our [Canada’s] supposedly universal health-care system; for, within it are important health services/treatments that are universally inaccessible, except for the high-incomed to access in for-profit clinics.
As for my own autism-spectrum disordered brain, I’m sometimes told, “But you’re so smart!” To this I immediately agitatedly reply: “But for every ‘gift’ I have, there are a corresponding three or four deficits.” It’s crippling, and on multiple levels!
Low-functioning autism is already readily recognized and treated, but higher-functioning ASD cases are basically left to fend for themselves. Really, a physically and mentally sound future should be EVERY child’s fundamental right, especially considering the very troubled world into which they never asked to enter. …
P.S. Regarding autistic nonconformist natures, I read more than once that ASD people typically prefer similarly-natured-cat company/pets over that of dogs, including their un-humanly innocence. For me, felines’ silky soft coat and generally being more mellow and less sensorily overwhelming are important pet factors.