Just because… doesn’t make it wrong.

I have had several discussions with my own mother this week about diets, sleep etc. I would like to clear up some myths that previous generations grew up firmly believing and now it is deep rooted in their mindset. Firstly, the rule about weight loss and not eating after 7pm or 8pm. I don’t know which it was but whatever the specified time it is wrong. It is more about what you eat and the stuff that is in it. If I stuck to that I would never eat much. Then the thing about the amount of calories you are supposed to eat to lose weight. Has anyone noticed that people have got larger since the era that this came out? I think that it was somewhere in the 80s but I wasn’t born until 87 so I don’t know specifics. Then my sleep pattern is also an issue that is discussed regularly. The fact that my current pattern isn’t a choice is a major point I wish to make but I am naturally not a day person. I do not sit around when awake. I am moving regularly so that doesn’t make me lazy. The time someone gets up isn’t a measure of whether they are lazy etc. I catch up with things in my own time just not on other peoples schedules.

BPD favourite person scenario.

Those with BPD and/or Autism will know about this aspect of the conditions. It is basically a friendship that is a priority for you to an obsessive level. It has so much more layers to it than just that but that is the simple version to introduce those without the conditions to this topic. I had a thing pop into my head the other day. Why doesn’t a favourite person scenario go both ways? For example: if both people have BPD then why don’t they both randomly become each others favourite person? I have never known that to ever happen. There is always one who is really into the other but the other is like whatever about the friendship/relationship. I am sure that it could happen but it doesn’t seem common. Those that I was always into at the time weren’t into me at all. This aspect of the condition (even if the other person has the same condition) seems to always be a one sided thing. I have just noticed that this is always the case in any discussion that I have had about the favourite person scenario. It would be so much easier if the favourite person mirrored the same feelings toward us. I ended up feeling like I was completely unlovable, ugly and just not attractive as a person because it was always one sided.