I’ve had an update from my advocate regarding the De Montfort University’s student finance bill which I was sure was a debt I didn’t owe due to the circumstances regarding my tuition. I was right to dispute it. The university should have returned the money to student finance because the funds were put into their accounts in April 2015. I had been withdrawn completely. I wasn’t even on suspension at that point. They had previously returned my loan to student finance when I was suspended for the year but then I ended up withdrawn by April. They shouldn’t have been given it back in any case because it was suspended for a year, which meant the finance too. I don’t know why or how it got given back to the university but it shouldn’t have been. I was 99% sure that I was right. I was told by many people that I shouldn’t dispute it. I’m glad that in this case I didn’t listen, because I was right.
I have also made an attempt to get an agreement for letterbox contact with my son and his adoptive parents. I’m hoping that I can get an informal agreement but his adoptive parents need to agree. I can’t make that happen but all I can do is to be decent towards them every time I approach them via the post room. I’ve had something passed on previously when I tried a few years ago. I sent Jonny a little keepsake card in this letter because I feel that as it he gets older it is important that he knows his birth mother still thinks about him despite the time that has passed. I can’t believe that he is 7 years old already. I can’t imagine what he would look like today. He will always be a blond toddler in my head because that is what he looked like last time I saw him. I really want some form of connection with him when he’s old enough to make his own decisions. I may have to wait a few more years depending on what the other parties feel in regard to my informal letterbox contact arrangement proposal. The best parts of life are worth the wait, though. I may even have to wait until he turns 18 if the adoptive parents aren’t comfortable with my proposed idea. I only have limited rights as a birth parent. I cannot push them. I can only make an effort hoping that they realise I’m not a threat to them and I don’t have any ulterior motives.