I have experienced the attitude from others regarding the belief that a person makes an active choice in regards to whether they are gay or straight. I’m sorry to break it to the ignorant that it actually isn’t a choice. If you happen to be gay then it is never a choice. It is part of who someone is as a person. Accepting themselves is hard at first due to sometimes badly wanting to be straight. The realisation that they aren’t straight can be quite unsettling for some people. They may never come out due to factors around them.
Then there are men who think that they can somehow make a gay woman turn straight. That doesn’t work unless she is bi sexual and happens to find you attractive. I’m not interested in being with a man whatsoever. I get told regularly by men that I basically need a good f***ing to make me interested in men. They try to tell me that, because my sexual experience wasn’t pleasant when I went there with a man, this is why I am not straight. I have given up trying to explain why that isn’t correct. I know that I shouldn’t even be letting my heart lead my mind to the woman I truly really liked in that way because they were bad news and only caused me pain. However, I’m also not smart when it comes to falling in lust with someone I’ve just met and don’t really know well.